Tips on Controlling Anger



Posted: Monday, February 04, 2008

by Yara Abab

Feelings can be represented and defined with the way our innersoles visualize it and interpret it. As you are sometimes keen to engulf yourself with happiness; some other times you may suffer to get rid of your angriness, which is considered as one of the feelings that nocks your door.

All of us are human beings who think and feel the impact of the surrounding atmosphere, but one is different than the other in taming his responses and reactions to the stimulating actions. The question is why does that happen?

Actually by reading topics about anger management -which becomes one of the topics that waves in my horizon due to its impact on my behavior- I have found that it's something we have to be cultured and learned about, since if you can't control your anger it will control you, and that what happens to many people all over the world.

Two different people respond to the same situation in two different approaches, one may take it smoothly and control his feelings while the other may take every thing sharply and personally to find himself eventually in a bad situation that nobody envies him for.

What does really generate that dissimilarity is the way you interpret the situation and what words you have uncovered from the conversation you had with your partner, colleague or co-worker.

On one hand you can analyze it the way you want. for you, you can take a meaningless empty word as a reason of teasing grudge, or causing harm to your feelings, on the other hand the other person didn't even thought about it twice because for him it's a waste of time to give it that attention.

In any way you respond to an event, and whatever technique you use to cope and that has proven that it's incorrect; then be sure that it's time to learn new methods to control our angriness before it controls us. By the way I'll start with myself since I have learned that anger can lead to awful results, but you don't have to take it too much seriously, learn the way that suits you and never think of being not able to control your feelings; that will lead to escalading anger and frustration.

Here are some tips that I liked to share with you about taming your temper:

  • Try to exercise and let all the indwelled energy and the bad feelings get out of your body.
  • Choose your own way of relaxation, whether it's by practicing the deep-breath technique or visualizing a scene that moves you to a calmer place or by keep talking to your inner self and asking yourself to relax and that nothing worth all that.
  • Think, think and think more than the two thinks before. Try to apprehend the consequence of saying any thing before you do, so after the entire mess end you won't regret any thing.
  • Express your anger and what caused you to be so. After you calm down. Pick a person you trust or even the one you spilled out your angriness on and talk to him.
  • Try to learn from your previous experiences and jot down in your mind what have they led to.
  • And the easiest two F's are: Forget & Forgive.
    • One may say that it is not a piece of cake as it seems to be on a scrap of paper; well I assure you that it's not. I always try to practice these little tips, sometimes it works and the other times they are futile to me. But by practicing and by giving it a try It will work, the password is never give up and do the things that you believe that you can't do, and be deaf when others or your mind say you can't.

    Let's always start by ourselves!

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